Have you ever said to yourself, “I shouldn’t be so mad about this”, “I should be able to handle this and it’s pathetic that I can’t”, “I can’t handle feeling so lost”, “or “I should be able to just get over this and move on”? Learn how to practice being kind to yourself during these painful moments.
When my daughter first started misusing substances, I knew I needed to change my approach to parenting, but I wasn’t sure how. When I learned that people with boundaries can be more compassionate because they don’t feel taken advantage of, it sparked a major realization for me.
As a family member you can have a tremendous impact on your loved one’s decision to change. Fortunately, there are strategies for helping that have been proven in studies to be very effective. The first step, however, is to gain perspective on your own feelings and the problems you are facing.