Distress tolerance skills help you keep yourself from ruminating, getting worked up, and making an already difficult situation even harder. By keeping yourself on more even ground, you improve your odds of being able to maintain your larger behavioral change goals.
Have you ever said to yourself, “I shouldn’t be so mad about this”, “I should be able to handle this and it’s pathetic that I can’t”, “I can’t handle feeling so lost”, “or “I should be able to just get over this and move on”? Learn how to practice being kind to yourself during these painful moments.
When my daughter first started misusing substances, I knew I needed to change my approach to parenting, but I wasn’t sure how. When I learned that people with boundaries can be more compassionate because they don’t feel taken advantage of, it sparked a major realization for me.